I did not believe it would "benefit" me to marry. I just did not believe or even consider it would penialize me to marry. Please do not assume to know my thoughts or beliefs when we have never even communicated before now. The fact that you have not been on assistance does lessen your credibility because if you had been (or even if as an attorney you knew the laws concerning such) you would know each state differs in it's elgibility requirements for assistance both married and single and that disability in fact increases the chances of getting assistance. Now, the fact that I moved to a new state this past year has a lot to do with why I did not know the requirements, but also the fact that the requirements change from year to year and when we had applied as a couple living together the previous year, the representative had told us nothing would change other than my name once we married when we asked about it, bc she said the standards weren't changing that much, but when we went to update the information after marrying, they said we no longer were eligible for any assistance. Please do not come at me as if you know me when you do not or as if I do not do my research when you know nothing about me bc if you did you would know before I make any legal decision (including moving) I read everything, research everything, and prepare for everything I need to. This came from out of the blue. I am not the only one this has happened to. When it comes to SSI vs SSDI, people get hit harder and often are ill informed. As far as I see, everyone in this thread is making blanket statements. I was defending marriage, something you maybe do not like? Many others are presenting arguments to give the blanket statement that marriage is a scam by society to benefit society in some way and therefore bad. I was saying marriage in itself is good but the government is trying to keep people from it. You are free to believe as you choose but stop giving statements as if you believe me to be a liar as your first comment about this did. You yourself by the way are giving the blanket statement there is no scam. Don't give orders you cannot follow yourself. We are all allowed opinions. Mine are based upon facts. You assume to know facts based upon "how the law is laid out". How it is laid out and how it works are entirely two different things. Ask anyone that's been on the other side (meaning the "client" not the attorney)