My former therapist used this expression. It was part of the case she made for getting rid of me.

Therapists give a performance that provokes idealization, then chastise the client for getting caught up in it, and give a patronizing lecture about focusing on real relationships, which presumably the client would have been doing if there weren't some problem getting in the way. No matter how you slice it, that is plain crazy.

I found this to be the most egregious sort of emotional manipulation.