My take is many times abusers perpetuate abuse. That is they are victims of being abused themselves. IMHO we should try to prevent abusive behavior by trying our best to understand where other people are coming from. Especially the hurt they are enduring. Abuse only perpetuates abuse Let's end it by trying to understand each other. To seek kindness and understanding. I was victimized by an abusive man who lived with me. He wasn't my boyfriend. Its as they say complicated. If you want me to explain okay. I felt he was terribly hurt by previous experiences. No offense VO I think we should try to prevent further abuse. Its a viscious cycle. Abuse produces abuse. Let's try to end the cycle.