Do you think this is punishment for him? From you? No judgements if it is. Just curious.

My T once did this, although in a different way. My instinctual reaction was, "Is she trying to push me to show her I can do this?"

I have BPD. I've slowly grown past its symptoms with age. Or experience. I surmise I'll always be challenged by it, but I don't fall for the stories online that say you can never heal from it.