And this is why I don't drink in the company of others...in fact I don't drink at all. You vet what I mean though.
Incidentally if your going to post on a public forum, you will get platitudes, attitude, things you don't agree with, and sometimes utter b.s.
If you are hyper sensitive to these things, posting your most delicate moments on forums,especially ones dedicated to those with mental health and personality disorders is possibly not the wisest choice to make.

We aren't mind readers, we can't possibly know what you do or don't want to hear, but most will be honest.

With regards to your post....doubt I can be much help, I don't have any female friends for the very reason I can not be bothered with the drama. It sounds like you walked into Marissa's web and wound up like a thrashing fly.
Still never mind, I would care less about what they think about it and be thankful your bf sat it out with you.
I suspect most bf's would have left their gf in the car and gone back to their friends.
I am guessing this kind of flake out is common, from what you said in your post.
I would offer some insight but I don't fancy getting it shoved back down the proverbial.

I do however wish you and yours all the best for the future. Take care.