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Old Aug 13, 2017, 01:10 PM
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we have a similar outcome here in the USA where some teens are feeling rejected when they dont get awards with their schools...

here we have all kinds of sports that children can take part in. in the younger and elementary years the way its done is every child regardless of their participation, input and scoring gets an award or trophy. the idea was to foster an attitude of everyone is equal and everyone is important to the team and no one is better than another, compete and play but hey doesnt matter how well you do you will get an award/ certificate or trophy just like your other team mates will...

unfortunately this tends to backfire when the children reach Jr high and high school where there is limited number of trophies/ awards/ certificates and there are rules and guidelines that govern who in the grade or on the team gets what or none at all. suddenly young teens are faced with the reality to get those awards/ certificates and trophies it has to be earned according to the rules set down, .... what a way to plummet someones self esteem and feelings of self worth and fostering feelings of rejection, not good enough and such. not fun.

heres what I tell my nieces and nephews.... if you feel you should have won that award/ trophy, certificate then be proactive.. put in writing why you felt you should have gotten the award, certificate, trophy. then ask the teachers or board that gave out those awards/ certificates, trophies for some of their time, schedule an appointment and give them the letter and ask them to explain their side of it and if there is anything that can be done for next time. Dont attack them or make it a personal you are out to get me, you just dont like me kind of thing. look towards the future... I have seen some situations where the teachers have done this with my nieces and nephews and realized it was a teachers mistake. other times it turned out there were reasons why they did not meet the criteria for receiving that award, certificate or trophy. Sometimes it was just a matter of hard decisions of all participants great but limited number of awards, certificates and trophies. either way they know what they had to do for next year.

my point maybe you can talk with the teachers or board that over saw the awards you missed out on. maybe if you can schedule some time with them they will be able to help you find out why you didnt get the awards and if theres something you can do, that will help you get it next time.
Thanks for this!
Travelinglady