I was 21 years old when I arrived in the USA, from Moscow, Russia. It was my first time living away from family of origin, in an English speaking country. I primarily cared about how well I spoke English and how gracefully I conducted myself. I did not pay attention to the fact that a married male professor 28 years older than me instantly befriended me and started showering me with positive attention. His wife is 5 years older than him.

In March of this year, things he said on the phone (after several years of leading up to it) caused me to overdose. So I no longer recall his pitting me against his wife as young, "so sexy", and un-strict (yeah, bring your sexual desires for other women to me - both you and I know very well that it is me whom you desire the most) as beneficial to me.