I just can't be the cause of anyone's pain anymore. I just can't. I've been told that I'm selfish, self centered, and immature. I know it's not selfish to be discrete and self aware, but you all make it sound like He's some sort of monster preying on me or something. While it's impossible to know someone completely with only online interactions (I totally agree with that), you can get a sense of intuition, and I'm not feeling any red flags in that area.

He's just like me. He sees a therapist for severe anxiety (can hardly sleep because of it), has a heart condition that he needs surgery again for (while I don't have that, I do have pretty bad asthma), and he went to a college for some time before he couldn't keep up and dropped out. He lives in a small flat with his family and has never even so much as held hands with a girl, much less had girlfriends before. Forget him having kids too. He has never had a girlfriend, much less an opportunity to have a child.

We play Diablo II a lot together with a few other people online and he has never asked me to do anything for him (other than having me attack his Diablo II character with mine, which he enjoys).

I know when his birthday is, what color his eyes and hair are, what he sounds and looks like, I even know his height and weight for goodness sake.

I'd think if he were anything but who he says he is, he'd have done at least something that would have sent red flags going, but he hasn't. And it's not like he has ever asked for my personal information (SS# or bank info), he hasn't even asked for so much as a penny from me.

I know it seems sketchy, but he's saving up little by little to come to America to be with me, and I'm going to tell him he can't stay under the same roof as me. I'm not foolish. I'm just tired of not being appreciated by anyone in my life. I'm done with the local guys. They all made it abundantly clear that I'm not interesting enough for them.

However, this guy, he and I have communicated for years before he came clean and admitted he was attracted to me. He's very shy and wasn't sure if he could bring it up because of the age difference. And honestly, it's not that big of an age difference. I've seen larger differences before.

I'm not going to support him as I can't even support myself yet. I'm barely making any money as it is.

Look, I know it's a sketchy sounding situation, but it really isn't as bad as it sounds. He's not coming here any time soon. He said he might be able to come sometime next year at the earliest.

One of his ideas was to get an International job and somehow get a transfer over here. He's really smart, and I think that is honestly the best bet for the situation.

I'm not some teenager being lured by nefarious sex traffickers overseas....just a lonely, anxious, shy and nerdy man who wants exactly what I do right now.