You can make some of your of decisions, but if you live with your parents and rely on their financial support You can't offer to let him stay with you while you foot the ball. To ask your parents to live with you and support him would be unfair (and honestly kind of selfish). The reality of the situation is that you don't really have the ability to be with this guy IRL until you can afford to have your own place and/or travel to see him. That doesn't mean you have to stop talking to him; just keep it virtual until either you or him is self-sufficient.