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Originally Posted by ruh roh
Wow. Good for you for hanging in there and keeping him on point with this. It sounds like he's saying that while you are not crossing any overt boundaries, he thinks you are trying to get him to feel things for you that he doesn't think is appropriate? I hope that's not what he means, tbh, but that's the downside of the silence and his not wanting to help you talk this out. Although, he did extend 15 minutes, so that's really promising.
These are your feelings you are exposing in order to find some resolution in yourself, not to extract some kind of emotional currency from him because he has, already shared that he cares (didn't he even say something about his heart?). So from this far distance, it looks like he's uncomfortable with himself and he needs to get that straightened out so that you can explore what's going on in your therapy and what is behind the feelings of disconnection.
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Thanks ruh roh. He has said he cares about me (and that he feels that "in his heart") and also a few sessions ago he said he 'Feels love for' me. I never asked him whether he does. Though I was talking about it feeling like one way love at the time and he said "that's a difficult question for a therapist to answer" and I said I didn't ask a question" and he said "yes you did". So it's like he's hearing me asking for things I'm not asking for. Could this be more about him desiring to 'show me love' whatever that means and not being able to own the countertransference? It makes me feel like he sees me as a psiren or something. And it's discomcertingly reminiscent of my first therapist.