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Originally Posted by toomanycats
It absolutely happens to me. A lot of times, for me, it's that I get out and realize...I'm still in pain. That it can't be fixed in one session. That I was holding my breath all week for that one session, hoping the pain would stop, but it's still there. Also, it tended to happen a lot with my exT because he was my safe place and my safe person and leaving him was agony.
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Thanks, this sounds a bit like what I experience. Because there is often much anticipation of the session, worrying that he'll cancel (because there was that long period where he had to cancel frequently because his wife was sick), so then the session actually happens and it sometimes seems to be over so quickly.
So maybe my expectations are too high at times, because there's so much buildup. Like I want there to be some big revelation and/or some intense connection every session, but it can't always be like that. So when it doesn't happen, I feel sad.
Plus, as you said, there's the whole leaving a safe space/safe person thing.