My husband was suppose to go watch my mother in law for 8 days. He's made them believe he can't because of my mental health.....that I need him here. This is not true as I'm fine to be home with my dogs and 17 year old son. Plus my parents are right down the street. He admits it's his needs that keep him home and doesn't understand why I care if they think it's my needs that keep him home. Well I do care because things have been said indicating I hold him back from seeing them. This is not true and I'm not ok with anyone assuming this. For 15 years I've tried HARD to encourage my husband to see and talk with his family more often. He's screamed at me about it even. I have a close relationship with my parents and encourage others to nurture these relationships as long as it's healthy. I'm not ok with being used as a Skapegoat. Am I wrong for this? Should I just get over it and let them believe what they choose to believe? There are times when my mental health is bad enough that I'd need him home but now is not that time and his family needs him. I've encouraged him to go help but he's upset and doesn't want to. I support him if he can't go, I just wish he'd be honest as to why. *sigh*