Maybe it's more that it felt like your therapist was saying you shouldn't have been born, when what she might have meant was that your friend triggered a feeling in you that evokes an impression of your mother--someone not caring about kids--and she was asking for clarification on that impression? I know I have said this many times to my therapist and others, that my mother should never had had kids, and everyone has agreed--their point (and mine) being that she was just not mom material. It's a separate issue from whether or not I should have been born.