I'm in CBT therapy and have been for over a year. One thing that has been annoying me is cognitive restructuring. I understand the point of it and its usefulness, but I get really irritated when my T uses it instead of acknowledging something is bad.

Here's an example from a few days ago. I slipped while walking into a deli because it was raining and banged up my knee. Because of this I got to work late and my boss yelled at me for five minutes and threatened to fire me. I was upset because that would mean I would have to drop out of school because I couldn't pay for it. I had to do an hour-long presentation and I got stopped by two people every few minutes who tore apart every point I made. I got to school later and learned I flunked a test I took and am on the verge of flunking out and not getting my degree.

I told this to my T who told me (as he always does) that I need to do cognitive restructuring and can't only focus on the negative so he had me list positive things that happened, which were: I had a good coffee in the morning, the stain on my pants from the fall wasn't too visible and I didn't hit much traffic on the way home. Then he said "see, it wasn't a completely bad day."

But these positives are MINOR compared to negatives. This happens on a regular basis where I'll have major negatives happen and want to talk about them, but he'll insist I list some positives (which are minor), like that I had a nice breakfast or a friend responded to my text and then point out that these are positives I'm failing to see. When I try to argue that the positives are minor, he says I'm undoing the cognitive restructuring I should be doing.

Do you guys think I'm just being resistant to CBT? How do I deal with the annoyance?