Blue,

I'm new here although have been browsing the community for a while. I also live in the Netherlands (regio Utrecht) although come from England. I've been through physical and psychological child abuse at the hands of my parents (although a very different situation from yours) and after many years I got away - I'm now in my early 20s (female). It's hard to know how to find a voice and tell the right people, especially with your dear brother at risk, but there are ways, so please don't give up hope. You know what is happening is wrong (which might seem so obvious but it's a hard thing in itself to accept - in my case it took a long time to realise it fully, even now I struggle - it was easier to blame myself) - this is already a big step toward gaining your freedom.

My heart goes out to you for all that you've been through and what continues to happen. If there's anything I can do - and I really mean this - please ask. I am familiar with the system in NL (I have been through it to get help) and also ways of seeking confidential help at the very least so that there is someone you can go and talk to privately with the possibility to then work with them to find a way out of this situation.

Are you familiar with services such as RIAGG and Crisisdienst? There are also many more outlets of support out there who could really turn you and your brother's lives around.

Like others have said, you have no reason to feel sorry.

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