Is this illness or just rudeness?I think my friend has used her illness as an excuse for all sorts of hurtful behaviour-saying she "can't" do things when it suits her.I mean,this is someone who will travel on a long journey to meet someone for sex but can't acknowledge a Christmas card?? I know my friend tells lies.I think I've just been used and discarded and illness has been used to cover up the fact that she's really not a very nice person.Is this harsh or the reality??