I have a fellow teacher as a co-worker and she needs to have everyone like her all the time. She wants almost all the students to like her; all the teachers to like her; all the parents to like her; all the administrators to like her. She is constantly flattering them in one way or another.

For students, she is the Easy A grader so the rest of us teachers look strict and like hard graders. She doesn't always enforce the rules with the students if the students dislike the rules. Again, the teachers who do enforce the rules look like strict jerks because she is the fun one who lets them break the rules. She remakred to me that one student she thought had an identic memory, but that student definitely did not have an identic memory. He was just an average run-of-the-mill smartish student, but she lies to herself to make them out to be great.

She bends over backwards for all teachers to like her. She just met some new teachers yesterday and even though she knows very little about them, she is agreeing with everything they say, laughing at all their jokes, and commiserating at their sad stories like she knows for sure they are great people. Maybe there are okay people, but I like to get to know people a little bit before I start to issue them a carte blanche.

She is always the first one to flatter and agree with the principal. She rarely murmurs a dissent to the principal. The thing is that my workplace has some immoral and amoral activities and she turns a blind eye because she wants the administrators to like her.

Do you have any needy constantly flattering co-workers who need for everyone to like them? For awhile, I was aloof from her, which made her want to get me to like her too. She won me over--sort of. I still see her for what she is, but I don't broadcast my disdain in the way I once did.

Thoughts on how to deal with this?