On the contrary, I wouldn't bother replying if I wasn't concerned, intense overwhelming feelings are difficult, sometimes painful to live with.

You couldn't understand this young woman's behaviour and I simply provided you with a 'possibility', based on the information you gave and my past experience.
Perhaps, I didn't word myself very well, when I described your behaviour as unsettling, I meant if I was to be confronted with it.

I don't cast judgement, It doesn't effect my life either way.
The feelings you described are not the average emotions someone feels when they first meet someone.

No one should feel so frustrated that they are feeling the urge to hurt themselves.

You said you that you saw a male therapist/Dr and were unhappy with what he said.
I wondered if you would be comfortable explaining what he said.
Obviously don't if you're not.

This brings me to why I reccomended you see male Dr, because you made it clear you found it difficult to be around attractive woman without being overwhelmed.

This is also unusual, I can't imagine it's much fun living like that.
I have first hand experience of people who struggle with their sexual function. Sometimes it's a psychological issue, sometimes it's a physical issue.
Yours certainly seems to have the potential for a physical, chemical or hormonal thing. Which has maybe then become a psychological issue as it's begun to interfere in your day to day life.

Of course I could be wrong, I am not a doctor, and I certainly don't have the qualifications to diagnose you.

But I do recognise that you appear under a great deal of duress that feels like it should be manageable.

Once again, I wish you all the best and hope you're able to find the help your looking for.