I think it's great you didn't just dismiss your husband like I have been dismissed.

I have tried waiting until the third or fourth date, which makes it even more painful since everything had been going well. I know it's not right, but now I have this compulsion on the first date to say "listen, I have (insert diagnoses). If you can't deal with that, then f off." I don't do it, but I just want to save myself the heartache.