Wow, I am really sorry your therapist said all that to you.

It strikes me that (1) he may be woefully uninformed about midwives and birth care in general and (2) he may not fully appreciate the depth of the emotional impact of losing a child. I am so, so sorry for your loss.

I agree that what he said about his wife was insanity.

Is he usually a good therapist? Could he have just had a moment of countertransference here? Even good therapists could sometimes blurt out something inappropriate; we are all human. If he was a good therapist in general, maybe it would be therapeutic to talk over with him your feelings about what he said? If he was defensive or dismissed it then that, for me, would be the end of things. Because your "annoyance" at him is totally justified, he was just wrong, wrong, wrong.