I am debating whether or not to change therapists. I have been seeing one for about six months and I really like her, but I just don't think I'm making the progress I want.

My current therapist is very focused on mindfulness -- rather than talking or venting about issues for an hour, we might discuss a topic and then focus on the physical aspect of it. For example, what was I feeling when I got really anxious, how can I use those feelings to better predict anxiety, etc. I also really appreciate that she is calm -- she is quiet, soft-spoken, and just being in her office brings about a sense of calm which is lovely.

All that being said, I think I am at a point now where I want to be more challenged. I don't want each session to just be about taking deep breaths and talking about how I feel physically. Sometimes I want to vent and b**** about something that happened. Sometimes I want to leave with useful tools that I can use in my daily life.

I reached out to another therapist who a friend recommended and spoke with her last week for the first time. She was funny and engaging, much more talkative in a sense. I also liked that she was very up front in saying that she sees part of her role as being a challenger, of sorts -- helping you explore things from a different perspective, and calling you on your BS. I left the conversation feeling like she may be a great match for where I am now.

So, therein lies the conundrum. Do I leave the therapist who I really, really like? Or do I tell her that I need things to change and see if she's amenable to that? Or do I jump ship and go to a new therapist?

Any advice would be appreciated!