((Raceka))

My MIL grew up in an orphanage. And she was very child-like in many ways and unable to offer her children the kind of love they needed.

I think it is ok to place the blame right where it belongs and get the anger out. However, working through the reasons gives us the understanding of why they didn't take care of us. It doesn't make it feel any better though does it? It just offers an explanation.

Maybe she changed her first and middle names because there were siblings she didn't want to find her? Or others? Maybe her aunt insisted on it? There could be a million reasons.

My T also explained the intergenerational abuse pattern. He said it takes 3 generations, to a healing. So, because we are in therapy our children will not find it hard or unusual or difficult to ask for help and their children will be so much the better for it. We are leaders and pioneers!!!

Peace