I know we have been through this so many times before. Should I really start to show that I love my wife or just back off. Yes I know what you are going to say...but my heart won't allow it. You see when I gave my heart to my wife (back in school) I knew I would never get that piece of me back...I don't want it back. I made a promise to my wife so many years ago to love her through sickness and healt for richer or poorer, and to let no person come between us. I am going to uphold that promise because of that piece of my heart that she holds in her hand. You know the funny thing is they tell you to forgive and forget...the only problem is it is much harder to forgive than it is to forget. God knows I have tried for so long to forget things...and I have started to realize that the things that I percieved that people did to me was not their fault. It was mine for not understanding what that person was going through...does that make any sense? Anyway I guess what I am asking is "I feel that I am losing control of my love life and I need some help."