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Old Dec 26, 2007, 02:29 PM
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This is not spoken as judgement, however, if you are feeling guilty for something that you are doing, there is a reason for that. You could try to ignore the feeling until it drives you nuts, but the problem will just get bigger if you do that. They only way out is to take a good look at what you are doing that conflicts with your values or beliefs. It seems easier to change the thinking to match what you are doing sometimes, but that never really works. You will need to change your actions and make them consistent with your values. When you do that, you develop integrity and congruence.

If your actions have hurt someone, then you will need to find a way, as close as you can, to make amends and repair any harm that you have caused.

I don't know what it is that you are feeling guilty about. Some people do have inappropriate guilt, so you can also look at what your guilt is about and ask yourself if it really is legitimate guilt that is there for a reason and you need to change, or if you are the kind of person who beats yourself into the ground with guilt that isn't deserved. In the second case, you may need to talk to a therapist or a religious leader about it and find out why you do that.

I wish you well, and hope that you find the answers that will help you.

TC,
Rap
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