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Old Aug 16, 2017, 07:30 PM
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So i found out last week that my T is going on an extended sabbatical.
I have known for a while that she has had some health issues and also family issues going on.
I know the health issues may be a relapse of Lyme disease or may be something else. She is having trouble focusing due to pain and severe fatigue and is afraid of developing complications. About 8 yrs ago she had her first bout of Lyme. She was a single mother at the time and worked until she developed a severe lung infection and had to go on disability for several months. She does not want that to happen again. Also they are not sure yet it is not something else and she has a lot of doctors appointments etc.

She is also having family issues which she has not elaborated on. I think one of her kids is having serious problems since she has commented on not sleeping due to her kids but she also has elderly family that loves close by so could be that too.

Right now she says she hopes to be back by Christmas but can not make promises until she knows for sure wgat is going on health wise. So there is no clear return date. My last appointment is next Friday.

It's obviously been tough news to absorb and i have had wuite a range of feelings. I understand because I have a chronic metabolic disease and ended up in the hospital from it several times. I get feeling awful and unable to attend to your life. But its very hard.

Today's session cleared a few things up. She finds electronic communication pretty draining so while I can text/email during sabbatical she may or may not reply depending on her own condition ( usually we text about every other day but this past week she was feeling poorly and dud not reply at all)
We ARE going to write real letters. We have both already gotten special stationery for the purpose. She finds writing real letters more centering plus she doesn't have to worry about alerts from a bunch of other people.

She said she does fully expect to return to work, but if she can not, she will not just disappear from my life. We will find a way to see each other ( my T and i have worked together intensely for 5 years now) . Which waa very reassuring.

Sometimes I feel full of love and understanding for her situation. Sometimes I am hurt, sometimes angry....i love her dearly, and want her to be well and happy again, so a big part of me just wants her to do whatever she needs to do to get to that place. But its hard.
I don't know if I need advice, I just needed to talk about it somewhere where people understand how hard the separation is.
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