I too have avpd. I dislike crowds~parties~new jobs~confrontations~family gatherings, even restaurants sometimes!! I used to liken myself to the phrase 'painfully shy' but now I've had enough time and experiences to know I just avoid these things bcuz it makes me uncomfortable. Of course no one understands & they come up with all sorts of reasons~think I should JUST GO, and I'll enjoy myself once I'm there, but I know better!! Makes it real tricky to keep yourself ok and your loved ones happy too