I agree and many different types of therapy focus on different things. Gestalt therapy is big in self responsibility and this can be done in a good gentle way but some therapist bulldoze on and go straight for the jugular. It didn't help you and made you feel worse, like I felt with my t at times when I said my life was crap, she would say yes it is and your choices have got you there, that never helped. Blame never helps. I am sorry you were treated like that.