Perna, I appreciate your response even though it is not in synch with where I am at right now. I can tell from your response that you are a kinder and more charitable woman than I am.

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I'd be kind of glad that your sister-in-law took the "lead" and contacted your kids

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">Not how I feel. She could have just as easily kept in touch with the kids by sending them the card at their dad's house or given them the card in person at her house. The fact that she excluded me from the card and deliberately sent it to my house sends a big message to me. This card was not about keeping in touch with the kids.

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I'm sure some of the women realize how odd/painful it will be for you (and them) and perhaps agree with you on your brother-in-law's ex-wife's treatment and would love to have an "excuse" to write you without having to "start".

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">These sisters were very condemning and hateful about the brother-in-law's ex-wife, so I doubt they agree with me about how awful her treatment was. This sister had an easy way to "start" contact with me if that is what she wanted. She could have included my name on the card she sent to my kids. How simple is that?

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I feel she has sent me a message. I got it loud and clear. I will not initiate any contact with these people. I thank the stars now that I did not send them cards.