It wasn't for me. Whether it was because I didn't have a very adept T or be it that I was probably picking someone unavailable to me, thus continuing my repetition compulsion...it didn't work out well for me.
It was quite painful the entire time; I longed to be a part of her life and it was an ache that I had to harness.

I think folks like me with avoidant traits are too often told that because you sometimes run, that you have to stay with your T. You must. You have to do the opposite of what you've done your entire life...but, many of those times I chose someone who was bad for me, who I shouldn't have stayed around any way. We likenm a T relationship to someone who is worthy of our trust and who has the benefit of the doubt because they are professionals, but they fall victim to their own humanity too and reeanactment can occur and I don't think that's a good thing if you're cycling with someone who can't pull you out of it.

I'm sure it has worked for some, but it didn't work for me and my heart goes out to those I've encountered on forums, like this, who were in utter turmoil because it was too painful to go, yet too painful to stay. And in some of those cases, it had been going on for years...which leads me to question if they were just being retraumatized.