And to add - not only do you experience that the therapist not being right there doesn't mean abandonment, but you experience that the therapist doesn't require you to take care of them or to do anything for them (like an abuser may have required) (except pay their fee) in order for them to not abandon you.

And, attachment work goes beyond abandonment. It's about self-worth, feeling safe in the world, knowing who you are, developing beyond the frozen child emotional state that is lurking inside.

It's an opportunity to grow up.