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Originally Posted by Xynesthesia
I was also intrigued by the comment that healthy people are not aware of their attachments, or I guess I do not understand it. People routinely miss others they like and are close to, go out of their way for loved ones and relationships in general. Maybe it's just not called "attachment" in everyday life, but things like love, friendship, companionship, etc. I would rather imagine that those that are unaware of these feelings and motives in themselves are either very young or... quite unhealthy emotionally?
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It's hard to explain exactly what I mean. I don't mean that they don't know who they love and care about.
Here's the best analogy I have:
Have you ever exercised and, the next day, been really sore and said/thought "I hurt in places I didn't even know existed." ... or been sick/injured and thought "I forgot how good it is to be able to breathe through my nose, but now that I can't, it's all I can think about..."
That's what I meant by "not aware of."
And maybe this applies more to "secure attachments" rather than to a "healthy, healed person." When an attachment is secure, you aren't as aware of it in that you are feeling the constant need to fight for it, guard it, protect it... or the constant fear of losing it.