(((((Blue Fish))))) I am so sorry that you might have a high risk pregnancy and have to see an OB instead of a midwife. This must have been overwhelming for you to hear. Maybe, as some others have suggested, you can talk to your midwife and find an OB who both can probably give you various options (sorry, I don't know much about this) and help you feel better. I was so sorry to hear of the loss of your daughter.

As far as the T, it does sound like countertransference, and quite frankly, it sounds cruel. It sounds like he was invalidating how you felt and trying to shame you, and that is not okay. It would be unprofessional at best for him to call you and try to get you to go to the group therapy. Were you attached to him? I hope that your transition to a new T will be a good one. I am so glad you are seeing another counsellor, I really hope she is able to help you.! Take care and please keep us posted if you want