Psychodynamic method twice weekly for 6 years, now probably quitting due to this issue:

4 years ago she diagnosed me with F60.3 borderline personality disorder and put it in writing. I never much identified with the DSM criteria and repeatedly tried to go through them with her bus she shot down every attempt.

Because it's wrong of me to question her, because I ought to trust her, I ought to accept the illness, should not see shame in being labeled etc. So I believed her fully.

This diagnosis, many studies are done on it, I read some and their conclusions were terrifying to me: 10% death by suicide, likelyhood of passing of the ilness' genetic component to offspring et cetera. My father was very concerned and lost much sleep over it, I took the diagnosis certificate to a Dr who medicated me intensively for it causing mayor side effects. Also I was always scared my employer would find out and that my colleagues would find out. This because I work at a hospital so a visit to the ER would mean my colleagues read my medical journals.

Turns out the borderline diagnosis was false. Recently I got an independent, exhaustive, through assessment from an unrelated psychiatrist, the diagnosis was removed, medications quit and I feel just fine.

I confronted the psychologist about it and she claims that her diagnosis is correct because when she diagnoses borderline personality disorder she does not use the criteria from DSM, but her own "Psychodynamic criteria" and which ones these are she will not share with me. Also she does not consider relevant the WHO's definition as a serious psychiatric illness. She claims I was wrong to be scared by statistics because "statistics don't say much".

I inquired as to why she wrote F60.3, which is strictly a DSM diagnostic code, if she does not use DSM criteria when diagnosing. So she backtracked and said she uses DSM sometimes, after having claimed the opposite the last 4 sessions.

Then she claimed it's no issue because she only told me about the diagnosis, when in reality there is written communication between her and a Dr I previously had where she used the DSM label.

I've been discussing the topic with her for 5 sessions now and when I ask her to speak her mind on it she will remain silent and stare at me for 10 minutes silently.

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Being wrongly diagnosed has affected negatively my career, my somatic and psychic health, dented my self esteem, given a grim vision of the future and caused much suffering to me and my family.

I maintain errors can be made but using DSM labels without looking at DSM criteria is stupid negligence. I'd be willing to forget and move on, keeping her as therapist, if I were to get an apology but she will block any attempt at conversation by becoming a mute.

I find this very insulting and see no choice but to fire her, not due to her having done a mistake, but due to her unwillingness to fix it.
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What is your take on the situation, please?