It sounds like ur husband is not used to opening up on an emotional level therefore he will not be able to accept someone else trying to do the same with him. I sounds like this is pretty alien to him. I'm wondering what he is like with his family and what his family/parents are like with him. If this is the norm for him then it will be very difficult to get what u need from him. Have u tried to sit down with him without shouting and just talk to him and explain what u need. I really hope this gets better for u. I really feel for u.