hi everyone,
my daughter turned 13 in march long story short, since the day she could talk, she has given me a hard time. she is very stubborn, and determined to do her own thing, and very lazy except for when it comes to her own interests.

long story short, i have been going through a really bad bout of anxiety and depression thankfully i am on the mend, but yesterday her behavior just caused me to lose it on her.... she wanted to watch something on netflix while i went to the store, and i said not until you do your chores, she just sat there, than when i put the PIN PASSWORD on netflix she lost it started pulling her hair in frustration and hitting herself. she ran upstairs and slammed the door....than she heads to my washroom and takes shaving cream, i said where are you going with that she didn't respond.... i find out she went to my neighbors house in their garage to do some kind of experimen with their daughter. i was upset because of the drama she pulled at home and than she has the nerve to go over there without asking me.

i told her to get in the car that she was going to the store with me.... than i was so mad...i have never yelled at her in my life.... but all my pent up emotions just came out.... i told her what have we not done for you, she is always complaining and whining about something... she has this BIG RESENTMENT AND ANGER towards me and my husband. She thinks we favour her brother who is almost 10.... which i don't, he just listens more and is appreciative and grateful for whatever we do for him. but he does have his moments too and i don't let it slide.

so having anxiety now i imagine worse things for her, as she gets older, like she will mix in with the wrong crowd etc etc. get herself pregnant .... that's where i have to say to myself YOU CAN ONLY WORRY ABOUT TODAY but it's so hard.

I did ground her for the day and she had to stay in her room all day except for meals, was that too harsh? i never had to ground her before like that, yes i have taken her gadgets.

anyways this was more of a vent but any tips would be nice, i have suggested counselling but she won't go. so i go myself and try to read parenting sites to get more ideas on how to handle things..... i guess i lack the confidence at times as to whether i am doing the right thing.