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Originally Posted by scorpiosis37
The point of the post was to suggest he might want to see a therapist/doctor to get an evaluation or counseling for his obsessive behaviors and distorted thoughts. If he isn't interested in that, that's totally his prerogative. I was just tying to be helpful since he seems to be engaging in a lot of negative self-talk and seems pained by his thoughts that he "isn't good enough for a girl this beautiful." Changing this way of thinking-- and the obsessive spending of energy and money on being "totally ripped"-- might be a way to be happier. Those of us on the forum just want to see others move towards being in less emotional pain.
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I wasn't upset or insulted by anything that you said BTW in case you thought I was. I totally get where you're coming from and I know that you mean well.
I just don't think therapy is for me. I don't see anything wrong with how I am anymore because I see it as advantageous in my professional life. Since my goal is to be a successful entrepreneur, most successful entrepreneurs that I've talked to or read blogs, articles, or postings on other forum sites have mirrored my thoughts on this. I feel like if I dedicated myself to therapy, I would be forced to lose all of this passion and so called "obsessive thoughts" which push me forward. I feel like a therapist would have me face a lot of feelings that I have that I simply am not ready to deal with yet and I feel like investing so much time and energy into healing by the means of a therapist would only hurt me right now since it has taken so much work to build myself up from the person that I was last year to who I am now.
Many of those who succeed in business talk about how one must make your goals your obsession and invest money into yourself and what not. I actually plan on doing all of this. I will be dropping some money later this year on a life coach to help me push myself forward and channel this part of my personality into succeeding as well as dropping money into courses (both online created by people that I trust as credible sources and possibly at my college) so that I can improve my social skills and ensure that I'm the best possible version of myself. Perhaps in the future sometime, I will face the emotional side of me that I neglect. I'm just not ready yet.
Maybe I should just accept that I'm simply not good with emotions or connecting with people on a personal level. I'm an INTJ who is purely logical and sucks with emotions. I am goal oriented in nature and am a lot stronger with logical thinking and technical stuff than I am with people. So women aren't the shallow ones; I am. I am because I suck with emotions. Nobody would want somebody that they can't connect with emotionally unless that person has something that the other person wants. I am naturally bad with these types of things so I look for alternative ways to get my needs met.