As I read some of the responses I heard my parents voices in my head. For me, that's a YUCK!

Hope, there are so many posters that post in the same manner as you, time and again. In my opinion you do not need to take anyone's advice. You do what you need to do for you. If it's a mistake you may or may not learn from it at that particular time. In my past, I used to have to hit my head against a brick wall several times score I got it right. Many times, I never did. That's where a good therapist came in. Post as you need to. Sometimes just putting it out there allows you to at least make a decision. And some are gooddecisions , some are not so good.