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Originally Posted by hopealwayz
I know that I really messed up by giving him the letter. He's not upset but I'm upset at myself. I'm humiliated because I can't believe that I was so determined to give it to him. I'm ashamed of my own behavior. Now I can't undo it and I'm so humiliated right now.
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Hope, I'm sorry you are feeling so bad. I don't think you messed up. It was a learning process. People always have strong emotions involving fondness of the heart and do things they regret in hindsight. I hope you and your therapist can work on your feelings of shame.
My therapist helped me distinguish between the words shame and embarrassment, so now, I may do similar things and I only get embarrassed which for me is easier to get over and becomes laughable at some point. But, the deep feelings of shame and humiliation just don't register.
Good luck to you.