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Originally Posted by Yzen
With all the fakeness in the world (advertising, news, artificial food, social media perceptions, etc.), it is difficult to determine what is real. Maybe finding what is real in ourselves is the only thing we can count on.
I have been trying for the last few years to understand what I really want in life. It's been a difficult task. There is so much that motivates us from the 'outside' that my 'inside' is cloudy. My therapist called me a 'people pleaser' during one session and it made me realize that I didn't know who I really am. I had been doing so much to please others that my real self was lost. So, I believe there is great value in trying to find what is true to ourselves. It seems to be a never-ending journey of pulling off layers to find who we really are inside. I don't know if that is an obsession, but it is a worthwhile thing to keep striving towards (in my opinion).
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That is exactly how I feel too! I am definitely a people pleaser and really do want to work on being real. I too feel lost and unsure about what the real me is. I've started to avoid things like social media as when I type stuff, it doesn't feel like me.
On here now I know I'm being completely honest. I'm not even really thinking about what I'm writing. Just going for it! I seem to be so different when I'm by myself though and that's another thing that worries me, what if I'm not the bubbly happy person everyone thinks I am?
On the same post I read about stripping back what isn't authentic they also said that if you're trying to be authentic then you're not being authentic. Makes sense as I often do that!
I have a problem with consistency too. I think it's more to do with how I act around others. When I'm alone I'm much more serious than when I'm with others. I find it hard to accept that serious side as I want to be upbeat and funny all the time... I can't explain it, but those two sides of me are what I find confusing!
Thank you so much for reading my post anyway! It's nice to know I'm not the only one who finds authenticity an important thing!