I think the thing is, resolving abandonment issues as an adult involves coming to terms with very challenging truths. I don't think clients OR therapists are necessarily generally ready or able to face those truths

Because as an adult you CAN'T be abandoned. You are your own saviour. You might need help, or insight or guidance, but only you can save yourself.

Humans in general do not like this idea. THAT is why we buy stuff and run after things ( like the song says, I went to the doctor, I went to the mountains, etc), follow teachers, read books . We want an easy answer. Most of us, Ts included, aren't comfortable with our naked selves, we can't tolerate our undistracted feelings.

A T can't teach that unless they themselves know it. Which generally means they have to do a LOT of their own work. Which a lot of Ts haven't done.

My T shows me a great deal of love. I am very attached to her . And yet she herself says, when i am so certain that I am good and loveable and my own north star, that she could reject me and i could say " it hurts that you are rejecting me, but I am ok. I am whole without you. I am loved without you"...THEN the work is done.

The core of abandonment work as an adult is NOT feeling loved ( which i at least want it to be because feeling loved feels great)....its understanding that you don't need anyone to love you exceot yourself . Understanding no one needs to complete you.

No idea how you screen for that sort of self awareness in a T.