i dunno, i'm not completely sold that therapy is always a good choice... it can be, but there are so many variables. i don't feel comfortable recommending it to someone else. i do not want to scare you away from going to therapy. If you think you should go then i agree that you should. It is a thing one should do if the time is right for it. But no one can tell someone else when that time is right.

the therapy relationship is crucial, so if you decide to do this check around and find someone who feels "right" to you.

the down side to the relationship is that as you open up to this person, you can become painfully attached. That is supposed to be a healing relationship and the attachment is supposed to be necessary. i dunno... it's euphoric and painful all at once. This person will devote an hour at a time, as often as you arrange, to concentrate entirely on you. They listen to your woes, your trivial issues, abuse, crisis, everything in between. It hits you in a way that isn't quite describable.

it's double edged.

having said all of that, i am very glad to have my T right now. He is supportive and helpful. i find the attachment issue very hard but the benefits outweigh the problems right now. Once this life crisis stuff is over i am not sure what will happen or what i will feel..

i hope you can listen to what your heart is telling you.