I just find it staggering that all therapy forums are dominated by the same handful of topics involving clients in crisis because they are emotionally dependent on a person with whom they have almost no have physical proximity, and only the most tenuous emotional proximity, and this is called "attachment" and is enthusiastically promoted.

Main point to me is the incongruence of an attachment-ish relationship that is based on distance and separation. That simple really.

I completely understand the desire to heal these problems, and the difficulty of living with them, but it doesn't seem unreasonable to expect some sort of honesty about all this.