this is one of the issues we are dealing with in EMDR. At my last appointment we started the actual EMDR. We were dealing with a specific event that happened in my early 20's. That day after trying for years to get my dad to care about me I realized I would never be important to him. When it happened then I shut down and said "fine I'm done"..but when dealing with it in therapy I ended up feeling like a young child screaming "look at me care about me: over and over" it was pretty intense. Since it was getting close to the end of my appointment T felt it was time to take me back to my safe place. This week long term T had a medical emergency. She will be out for at least 2 weeks. Ok she apologized for taking the time odd but I told her she needs to take all the time necessary to heal. At the same time there have been red I have dealt like on EMDR where I just want to cry and don't leave me... which is crazy. This has nothing to do with our relationship but I can't help going there.