There is also no shame in admitting this is more than I can handle any more & there is a need for more help than I am able to give at some point in time.

My grandfather tried to hide my grandmothers alzheimers as long as possible. Knowing her behavior with that & how she was beating up my grandpa with her cane even with a worn out hip replacement, my mom was wise to not even entertain the thought of caring for her & realized she was way beyond care outside a care faciluty & my grandpa was better ofc in a place where he had some independence but still had care availsble at a push of a button.

Knowing our own limitations is part of mindfulness & wisdom & as a friend of mine who was caring for her MIL realized, sometimes the relationship actually suffers when we are their caregiver & improves when we are able to just spend the quality time with them....the enjoyment of being together returns.