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Originally Posted by toomanycats
But this is the psychotherapy sub-forum... this is only a small part of this entire site. I'm sure if you look at the entire site as a whole, you will find that many more people are posting about things that have nothing to do with attachment to or work with a therapist. This sub-forum isn't a good sampling of the entire psych community - this sub-forum is literally dedicated to this topic. Edit to add: it's like going to the substance abuse section of this forum and saying "why does everyone in the psych world have a substance abuse problem?"
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This. I specifically sought out this forum to find someplace where people understood my feelings about my T. Tbere is powerful selection bias if you are looking at this forum as representative of people in therapy. It's representative of people in therapy with powerful enough feelings/experiences thar they sought out a specific place to talk about it....thats not most people in therapy.
And for me the experience of "small rejections " where my T is not there when i need her and i FEEL abandoned but am clearly NOT has been one if the most healing things AND the thing with one of the most profound influences on my real life relationships. My marriage in particular has improved greatly. I used to feel very insecure and be. Very easily hurt. Now I've learned to give healthy space without feeling like the relationship is threatened . That's HUGE. I'm happier my wife is happier. She just got season tickets for college football ( which i hate ) and is over the moon excited. A few years ago I would have been hurt by her wanting to spend an entire season of Saturday's away from me....