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Originally Posted by Open Eyes
You need to take a break from relationships and concentrate more on healing. If you spend the time opening up and talking you can slowly learn what you fail to recognize in the other person you begin a relationship with that turns out where you end up in yet another abusive relationship. I believe you are a nice person, in fact, you are probably the kind of person these abusive type personalities look for. Now you are at a point where you are emotionally exhausted and emotionally sensitive because you have been hurt so much. You deserve to take the time you need to heal and build up better defenses.  |
thank you..... you are very kind to say this. Yes, I believe I have been a target for bullies and abusers because I am far too nice. You're right on the mark about needing to take the time to heal and address the issues in therapy. The LAST thing I need is yet another abusive relationship. Dear Lord. I am so done with all of that. I am too old to keep doing this to myself again and again. I've ignored or dismissed or have excused the huge, glaring red flags, that's my biggest problem. I don't pay them enough attention and walk away as soon as I see them. I give the person a chance because I feel a connection to the person that is strong... and that is wrong. Once the red flags are there that point to a bad partner, I should learn to walk away. And I have not done that yet to date. :/