This. I specifically sought out this forum to find someplace where people understood my feelings about my T. Tbere is powerful selection bias if you are looking at this forum as representative of people in therapy. It's representative of people in therapy with powerful enough feelings/experiences thar they sought out a specific place to talk about it....thats not most people in therapy.

And for me the experience of "small rejections " where my T is not there when i need her and i FEEL abandoned but am clearly NOT has been one if the most healing things AND the thing with one of the most profound influences on my real life relationships. My marriage in particular has improved greatly. I used to feel very insecure and be. Very easily hurt. Now I've learned to give healthy space without feeling like the relationship is threatened . That's HUGE. I'm happier my wife is happier. She just got season tickets for college football ( which i hate ) and is over the moon excited. A few years ago I would have been hurt by her wanting to spend an entire season of Saturday's away from me....