No I am not like that, but I understand what you are saying.

Now talking about Feud I like that show, what really caught my eye is that at the end of their lives Bette and Joan realized they were very alike. And that's why they fought. It was too late though.

I am not saying you are exactly like these people you fight with, but is it possible you subconsciously recognize something of yourself in these people and that's why you can't let it go?

I don't think you need to compromise per se but maybe separating from people who create negativity in your life. Keep your distance. And sometimes I prefer to be "happy than right". Certain things aren't worth fighting for (and certain things are like if this person is discriminating others based on their race or something, you shouldn't compromise your values, but other stuff is just not important)

I think therapy is the best bet here