AtAt I wondered about the dynamic also...is this rewarding people for a destructive behavior? He sounded very compassionate when explaining that people with self harm are in an enormous amount of pain ( mr obvious says obvious things) he must think that withholding care is cruel because they are already suffering.

And I get at least a hug a session if I want it. I have no right to be jealous. It is a part of me I amconcerned about I was in the ICU last year for a purely medical reason and it scared me that I enjoyed being cared for. A little too much.