That is me. I suppose when the grudge comes in is.. when do you decide to let those people back in your life a little bit because you realize you could be hurting yourself in some way...avoiding a good friend or looking foolish at work.

Another "grudge" at work involves someone who went behind my back to steal a job from me. She still works there and we still run into each other from time to time. She gets to act like a normal human and by my having the grudge.. I somehow seem to be insane or childish. I find her talking with my boss often and puts it on me to tell him all of our past which, probably will make me look insane and small.

So should I just let it go? But if I do.. she wins. But has she won anyway and I am just making it harder on myself by acting this way?